How to Enjoy your Fears, Including the Big Ones

Fear is a unique emotion that often unjustly dominates our minds. It can hold us back from doing things that, in hindsight, seem trivial.

Have you ever hesitated to speak up in a meeting, felt anxious about introducing yourself to someone new, or even felt nervous about sharing a harmless opinion?

These fears can be powerful, and they often stem from the smallest things in life and although small they can definitely hold us back.

But what if we could learn to engage with these fears instead? Let's explore the idea of micro bravery, which highlights those little moments when we confront our fears. Ever wondered why these tiny obstacles can feel so intimidating?

Is it rooted in our primal instincts, or do deeper psychological factors play a role?

The Exercise of Self-Reflection

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Think of something small that makes you nervous. Picture yourself doing it and notice your feelings.

This exercise encourages you to confront your fears directly. As you visualize that small task, allow yourself to truly experience the emotions that arise.

Are they rooted in doubt or past experiences? It's intriguing how something minor can trigger significant feelings.

Our brains are wired to detect threats, even those that feel small. According to a study from the American Psychological Association, about 65% of people report feeling anxious about everyday situations.

Understanding this can help us acknowledge how our thoughts can amplify these minor fears.

Now, were you able to think of something?

Notice how you were even though I said, "something small". You unconsciously recognize its small yet still fear it, why?

Before we jump into that, let's talk more about your worries.

What’s Holding You Back?

Once you've pinpointed a small fear, consider these questions: Why does it seem so daunting? What makes this tiny obstacle feel like a mountain?

1. Perceived Threat: Many fears arise from how we perceive a situation. For instance, speaking in front of a group often feels vulnerable due to the perceived stakes involved. You might fear stumbling over your words or being misunderstood.

   
   

2. Fear of Judgment: The idea of standing out in social situations can fuel anxiety. If you worry about how others will perceive your actions or words, it might feel like a hurdle too big to overcome.

   
   

3. Past Experiences: Reflect on whether a previous experience shaped your fear. Perhaps you tried speaking up once, and it didn't go as planned. That memory can linger and make future situations feel overwhelming.

   
   

Acknowledging Micro Fears

Acknowledgment is the first step to overcoming any fear, big or small. When we shed light on what scares us, these fears often lose their power.

Understanding why something as seemingly insignificant as a spider or a difficult conversation evokes fear gives us a sense of control. For example, consider that spider. Instead of viewing it as a threat, think of it as a harmless creature.

Sounds easy, but just try your best, you'll see some change in how you view things.

Tip: Create a list of your fears. Assess their realism and explore their origins. You might find that many of these fears are based on distortions or misconceptions that no longer hold truth.

Or by some change you may become fascinated with things you're scared of. Now wouldn't that be interesting...

Discovering Your Micro Bravery

Once you've identified your small fears, it's time to face them in manageable ways. This process is similar to gradually acclimating yourself to diving into a pool—you don't jump in headfirst right away.

Or when working out you don't start lifting 100 pounds right away.

Begin with small challenges related to those fears. If public speaking is intimidating, start by sharing your thoughts with just one person. As you gain confidence, gradually work your way up to larger groups. Just like building a muscle, consistent practice will strengthen your courage.

Think of it as studying, the more you study the more confidence you get during the actual test because you've spent more time on it.

Embracing Daily Practice

Make confronting your micro fears a part of your everyday life. Each small act is significant. Whether signing up for a cooking class or sparking a conversation with someone new, remember that every step counts.

Consider keeping a journal of your experiences. Reflect on how you felt before, during, and after each task. This practice can reveal patterns and show how you become desensitized to those previously daunting fears.

The Freedom in Facing Small Fears

Recognizing and understanding our fears—however small—can lead to a sense of freedom. It's vital to remember that everyone experiences these small anxieties; it's a normal part of being human.

By actively confronting our fears and embracing micro bravery, we can step past the little things that often hold us back. So, the next time a small anxiety arises, ask yourself: "Why is this intimidating?"

Taking small, bold steps can pave the way for more significant changes. By recognizing the micro fears in our lives, we empower ourselves. This shift not only nurtures our growth but also spreads positivity and resilience to those around us.

So take that plunge, even if it’s just a shallow one. Embrace those tiny hurdles. They could lead you to a vibrant world of growth and fearlessness!